The women were the worst. My mother in law was a loud, domineering woman in her family and to be honest - something of a bully. Her idiot husband bowed down to her and insisted (often without success) that everyone else in the family do so too. Having said that, she wasn't a bad woman...but she had a position of authority in the family and she often misused it. I personally put up with a lot of her shit because she was a family elder and I've been brought up to respect my elders. The problem was that she had gone from being a family elder - to being elderly. There's no sin in that, it happens to everyone - but there comes a point where you lose touch with current events and realities and you can no longer make good decisions. For my mother in law - she and her idiot husband watched day-time TV and thought they were informed. As a result they embraced homosexuality and the cultural fascism of political correctness and brought those weapons to bear on me.
Looking back on our family matriarch, I saw other flaws as well. PP over at The Smallhold once said that matriarchs are the keepers of morality and even so - they aren't always fair. Whew...he hit that nail square on the head! Uncle Bob once said that women are fascists and socialists by nature - and he was spot on with that too. Truth is, my mother in law wasn't that bright either. She wasn't stupid...but she was no whiz kid either. I respected her because she was a family elder, my wife and kid loved her and when she wasn't being a stupid bitch - well, I felt some fondness for her too. But there is a time for the family matriarchs and patriarchs to hang it up and pack it in - and head out to pasture. Go golfing. Travel. Do the Freedom 55 thing, maybe. My in laws refused and as a result they started encouraging my daughter to do things she shouldn't, and made decisions that hurt her, us and even themselves. When the consequences of their actions brought negative results they refused to take responsibility for them or even admit there was a problem. My wife said that they were using my daughter's sexuality to drive a wedge into our family and she was absolutely right. They just wouldn't back off. The problem is that my wife and I are in our 50's and fit to be 'family elders' ourselves.
I see only one reason for a wedge - to split things. If you can't pull a wedge out - you hit it with everything you have and hope something good breaks off. Our family split and somehow, after the endless feuding I still had my wife. It almost breaks me up. It's enough and more than I expected o deserve.
We never brought my own parents into this feud. My own mother is a matriarch as well. She is a smart woman and every bit as unfair as my mother in law. She's a liberal ass hat, intellectually dishonest in debate, and a quick wit - that woman could tie Donald Trump up in semantic knots before the poor bugger knew what hit him. She can do that with anyone she argues with. Like most women she thinks queers are wonderful regardless of what they do. She certainly is a socialist and perhaps a closet fascist as well. We never told Mom about our family break down because the issues involved are all political hot buttons that would be sure to set off a died-in-the-wool liberal ass hat. Plus, we hoped against hope that one day Daughter would grow up and maybe even come home. Also, things had gone so badly with the in laws, I just didn't want the same fight with my onw family. Unfortunately... I couldn't put it off any longer.
We had Mom and Pop over for coffee and cookies and had a wonderful chat. Pop admired my RC airplanes and even went down the stairs to look at my new F4U Corsair. He struggled a bit, but made it back up the stairs like a champ. Mom and the wife talked about plants and finally...we laid it out. I expected a shit storm of liberal ass hattery and foolishness - but Mom didn't even press for details. My wife choked up and wept and Pop consoled her. They have the basics of the feud and that's all they wanted. No judgements, no lectures, no virtue - signalling, no political correctness. I almost wept in relief too.
I'll be goddamned. We're still a family on my side.
I don't get it. Two matriarchs with similar politics, two similar moral compasses - and two vastly different outcomes. On the way out Pop said, "Well who knows what's right these days...?" . For me, it's too big a question. You have to break it down and maybe come at it the other way: what's wrong these days? That is much easier, and will make a very long list:
- 26 genders at last count
- mainstreaming deviant and degenerate sexual behaviours
- tolerating cultural fascism
- abdication of personal responsibility
It was a wonderful weekend. Hope yours was as well. As a displaced 'family elder' I have some advice for you younger folks - hold your families close - but always do what's RIGHT. Family does not trump right and wrong, and once you start sliding down that slippery slope there can only be one outcome.
Have a great day, and thanks for stopping by.