Thursday, 16 March 2017
So. Your Kid Is Queer. What Now?
I love titles like that. See 'em all the time on MSN and other 'lifestlyle' websites that mostly appeal to women. Chicken headed LIBERAL women. Stupid women. They're written by stupid women, FOR stupid women. Disagree with them? Shaddup, you homophobe! You're worse than Hitler, ya wanna fry all the queers, enslave women, blah blah blah - you know the drill, you unsavoury deplorable racist, you! HAR HAR HAR! Been there, done that, got the tee shirt.
In my case it was simple. My daughter was a leftwing SJW thumb-sucking snowflake. She was at the very leading edge of that social phenomenon and when she started wailing and sobbing about how she was abused and tortured and traumatized by my rejection of her gay agenda - and a lot of people took it seriously. Words like 'social justice warrior', 'cry bully', 'gamer gater' and 'virtue signalling' weren't even invented yet. This monster was something new! We rejected each other after that, and that was that for that! I reject anyone that opposes free speech, political/social/economic realities and critical thought. The in-laws finally got the punt from my family too and try as I might... I still look back sometimes but know that things are what they are, and ours is the new reality.
When your queer comes out of the closet, there's a lot of variables that come into play and my experiences might differ from yours by light years. Some queers ARE decent enough people outside their depravity and sin, and they are courteous and respectful of those that aren't on board with the gay agenda. It takes courage to face what you are in their boat - and you have to respect that. Most of them don't like the fact they're gay either. If they're like that you can try to get along. If I were to offer advice - when you first learn of their sexuality - stifle yourself. If you disagree with it, STFU and think about it for awhile. Don't react in haste even if you're provoked. Ask your kid to give you space while you get your head around it. It's only fair, you are going to have to challenge your own morals and ethics and beliefs and reconcile them with their depravity. That's what homosexuality ultimately is, despite the frantic efforts of stupid people to whitewash it. Good luck with that, is all I can say - and I mean that too. I was searching my soul for YEARS after our family broke.
Society has turned the victim into the new noble class. That has in turn spawned a sub-noble class of phonies like the copy-cats, the virtue signalers, the progressives and the cultural Marxists that are busy inventing new pronouns so that they can more thoroughly police the way we speak and think. If you stand up to them they are going to hit you with everything they have. People that were your friends will turn on you, and even some of your family might. There is no peaceful middle ground with these zealots and militants; they literally intend to be society's moral and intellectual superiors and they've just about accomplished it. The good new is that they can be fought. Cultural Marxism by nature appeals to stupid, marginal people and if you have to fight you can.
My experience was that the smarter family and friends will back up and try and stay out of such conflicts. The stupid ones will usually take sides and start throwing shots. The queer/SJW's will drive that as far as they can too. By nature they are deceitful and manipulative and unless you totally submit to them they WILL tear up a family. You have a decision to make with the militant queers - do you want them telling you what to say and think all the time? For them, tolerance isn't good enough - you will be expected to cheerlead for them and if you deviate from their narrative one iota - no amount of virtue signaling or apologizing will save you. It's a devil's choice: rip up your family, or get in the closet the queers had been living in.
Some family members will not have the option of 'staying out of it'. Some will have to choose sides, like your wife or husband. I agree that it's a horrible thing to have to do - forcing them to take sides... but if everyone is honest with themselves, about progressives and the LBGTXYZ clan - most parents will see the hurt and hell their sexually disturbed kids are headed for and they will be parents first and tolerant politically correct friends second.
If I had to distill it all, I would say this: when confronted by queers, THINK. Good ones will let you, the bad ones will insist on doing that for you. If they do, and you are one that prefers to think for yourself - there is no good to be had in submitting to people who won't respect you for your tolerance or reciprocate it. If that is the lie of the land - your family could be dead already. There's no easy answers, there is no manual, you are on your own. Let me know how you make out if you're so inclined.
And - Best of luck to you!