I can't remember where I saw it. One of the bloggers was saying that it's all well and good to note that quitters never win, and winners never quit. But sometimes - the effort vs the reward just doesn't make sense. The blogger that I was reading speculated that an acquaintance of his had just walked away from some fusterclucks and everyone scoffed at the time... but looking back in the rearview mirror it may just have been the good call to make.
I've cut some ties with family over the last couple of years and I've searched my soul and prayed for the strength to forgive and forget. But when I sit down and think about what would be involved with rebuilding the burnt bridges, and what's on the other side of them... for the life of me I cannot see what could be gained from it.
There is indeed a time and place for Plan B.
Sometimes you just have to make a stand for your own sanity. Compromise is a two way street. Nothing has pained me more than the ones I have had to walk away from. But it is no good keeping them around if they are ultimately harmful to you. Hang in there Glenn.
ReplyDeleteI have a brother I haven't spoken to in years. We are both a lot happier for it.
ReplyDeleteI'm known for having a lot of tenacity, but I can think of a half-dozen or more times I should have just walked away. This is particularly true of toxic people and bad or harmful situations. Forgiveness is fine, but the other person or persons involved have to ask for it. If they don't, you can forgive them all you like and it won't mean much of anything because in their mind they've never done anything wrong.
ReplyDeleteForgiveness is distinctly different from forget-ness. A wise person never forgets, because when you do, you have set yourself up to repeat that lesson all over again. True forgiveness doesn't happen until you forgive yourself for letting the situation go down that rabbit hole, and that is tough.
ReplyDeleteWell thanks for stopping in you guys. Sometimes I just haven't got the foggiest notion about how my world works.
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