We literally had that exact same fight in my family
light years ago.
A lot of kids followed their dreams, and found they were just dreams.
The adults that urged them to do so are unavailable for comment.
We had that exact same fight in my large unconventional extended family. Back then the education scam was at its height. To my idiot in laws, “all education was good education!!!”. My daughter was going to party her way to a degree, and then get a six figure job making a career out of her hobby. My mother in law was the head of our family, her husband was to be the wise patriarch… and the times were changing. Our society’s morals and ethics started rolling slowly to port… and my family went with them. I held fast and watched them go. And the weight built up… When the ship capsized, over they went with all the other lost souls. They would have dragged us with them if they could. I chose to retain traditional morals and ethics, and told my in laws to give the devil my regards when they met him, because that is where their new ideologies were taking them. Our family was over.
It is so odd. Today my father in law eats through a tube in his stomach. He can walk, barely. His mind is mush. Back in the day he meddled in my family, undermined me as a father and even tried to break up my marriage. I hated him with the heat of 1000 suns. His granddaughter was perfect, though, and could do no wrong. She betrayed his love just like everyone else’s.
But today, with him… I feel nothing. He was mostly a man of good intentions but he would not think of what those intentions cost, or listen to those who would pay for them and be on the hook for them. The easiest way out of any predicament was always the best way. In fairness life was not exactly fair to him. He lost his youngest son who was born with heart problems. His mother died when he was a teen. His father was an abusive drunk. His wife was a stupid bitch, given to nagging and henpeckery.
Did karma put him in that chair? Did he put himself in it? What’s going to happen to me? What does karma hold for me? What fate am I making for myself? I have no animosity left for him… but not a lot of sympathy either.
Yet it feels like there’s something to be learned from him and I’ll be damned if I know what it is.