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Sunday, 18 September 2022

Sometimes It's Not That Easy


 

Some things are easier said than done. And some platitudes are not always true. Have a good Sunday, and thanks for dropping in.

6 comments:

  1. Yes - it is almost never as easy as that. It is where you have to start though. If you are never there, you don't have the conversations that pop up with the kids. I kept my office in the house - the kids would wander in one at a time and engage in small talk for five or ten minutes. Then, just when I would be thinking about getting back to my work, the real topic of discussion would come into the open. Managed to have some good talks about major life issues - I don't think that we would have been able to have those conversations if I were to brought them up "cold". These conversations started pretty early on in their lives too; about the time that they started school

    They are both adults now, but still talk to me about the "big" things/decisions. I am pretty lucky.

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    1. The worst is when they stop talking… that is when they REALLY get into trouble….

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  2. "Be Here Now" was a little gimmick that my company pushed, trying to get them engaged. Being aware of life as it happens I guess.

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  3. Funny; the onus is always on the parent being there. 'Reminds me of something I read a while back. An old couple was in their car when the wife said. "The magic's gone! I remember when you used to sit beside me when you took me driving in the car! Now look at us!" To which the husband said, "Dear, I'm in the same spot I'm always in when I take you driving in the car..."

    That's the way it is with kids. They walk away from you and then blame you for the distance between you! My wife has repeatedly taken my kids' side in this, saying I wanted to "just forget about them once they turned 18." One of my kids was into music and often jammed in the garage. He knew I loved to sing, and knew I COULD sing. Did he ever once invite me to jam with him? No. My other kid loved fishing. He even bought himself a boat. He knew I loved fishing and boats. Did he ever once invite me out on that boat? No.

    Fact is, I've ALWAYS been there... The KIDS haven't!

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    1. It’s a two-way street, Pete. Did YOU ever ask your kid to play while you were singing? Did YOU ever buy/rent a boat and take you child fishing when he/she was little? I have found that a majority of arguments are not one sided. The truth is almost always found somewhere in the middle.

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